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[Muku]

They're not the Only ones Pissed off.

I learned many years ago that what your feelings may or not be towards family dont count. At least not to them that is.

So do I! I love my wife, but she has her own reasons for agreeing as well. She wanted to give the money but I said no and she understands my reasoning for saying no.

Take this as you will and this is not a comment about how your wife will act or wont for that matter but something that I have gleaned from nearly 25 years of marriage to an Okinawan and living the overwhelming majority of that time here in Okinawa.

She is agreeing with what you say, she has her own reasons as well. But she is going to do what she wants to do in the end. Don't be surprised if somehow that boy gets the money he needs for his trip and don't be surprised as well if your wife gives him some money as well. Maybe not the entire amount but even some kozukai, or spending money.

The school trip, depending on the school shouldnt cost 200,000 yen. That more than likely includes spending money as well. In public JHS's here the annual school trip taken to mainland for either 2nd or 3rd year students runs between 140,000 to 160,000 per student and then spending money for the kids to buy souvenirs and stuff. ons and travel expenses are included in the trip.) (Oh and on a side note most public JHS's also limit the amount of money kids can take along on the trip as spending money too. Usually it is around 20,000 yen or so. All meals and accommodations are included)

I understand that. and after things cool down...whenever that will be they will be in the house, but I will have to think about letting them stay.

Wife's Aunt's house you say? Right?

Ok, and you have the right to kick them out if something happens? More power to you if you do, yet again from experience here, I can't imagine blood being thinner than water here.

No matter how dysfunctional the family may or may not be I wonder if in the end you are going to be the one that has the last word on who gets to stay in the house.

[DOCROB]

Originally Posted by Muku

Wife's Aunt's house you say? Right?

Ok, and you have the right to kick them out if something happens? More power to you if you do, yet again from experience here, I can't imagine blood being thinner than water here.

No matter how dysfunctional the family may or may not be I wonder if in the end you are going to be the one that has the last word on who gets to stay in the house.

No I can't kick them out of the Aunt's house but I CAN kick them out of mine when I get one..

[Muku]

Originally Posted by DOCROB

No I can't kick them out of the Aunt's house but I CAN kick them out of mine when I get one..

Why would you even let them move in with you in the first place?

I would think that you would make it perfectly clear to them that when you move out they are not invited.

[DOCROB]

Holy Shit you wont believe unless you saw it the oldest kid went to school!!!

[Mehi River]

gees, maybe he is manning up. Gotta support him on that, as best as you can!