How many times have you been married?

[okisteve]

There have been so many replies to the thread on infidelity that it seemed worthwhile finding out how much of the comments were based on real-life experience and hard knocks.

[socalheart]

I've been married once, no divorce. I suppose it means I'm more optimistic about a faithful, monogamous marriage for myself.

[DocTurtle]

Just once for me and that's the way we like it. :)

[kombu_kid]

Just once, and tomorrow's my 20th anniversary......don't ask me how she put up with my sh** for that long. I guess just keep laughing at ourselves and life in general.

[SGT_OKINAWA]

my .02 worth

except for widow and widowers, there is NO ONCE, TWICE, etc. Marriage is for life, good bad, etc. there is no # to it, it is a evolution in your life and you accept that is how your life will be until the day you die.

Not judging anyone, rather this it is my $.02 worth, and how I feel about marriage.

*(Sits back and waits for people to flame back in respond with well's, if, and or but's) :rolleyes:

Peace!:army:

[dk]

Just once, and tomorrow's my 20th anniversary......don't ask me how she put up with my sh** for that long. I guess just keep laughing at ourselves and life in general.
Damn dude, congratulations. :thumbup:

[Cathleen_38]

zero. Never been married. No kids, no hubby, no boyfriend and zero stress! I guess that's why I look ten years younger than most people! I don't smoke, drink or do drugs either. :w00t::w00t::w00t: Eat avocados- and moisturize your skin! Exercise. to stay thin and hot!

[SGT_OKINAWA]

zero. Never been married. No kids, no hubby, no boyfriend and zero stress! I guess that's why I look ten years younger than most people! I don't smoke, drink or do drugs either. :w00t::w00t::w00t: Eat avocados- and moisturize your skin! Exercise. to stay thin and hot!

One problem, or shall I say advantage you have over men, you are a woman, it is EASY for you to get laid, men on the other hand have to take a number, wait in line, present gifts, talk all nice, pay for movies, dinner and drinks, then ask for it. Women can say, NOW, HERE, GET BUSY and they have sex at their feet, no matter HOW butt ugly she is, there is always some guy that is willing to have sex with her.

That is why there are a ton of female prostitutes and lesser male ones around the world.

If Porn was taken off the internet, all there would be left is one site that says “Bring back the porn” :D

Peace!:army:

[hankypanky]

zero. Never been married. No kids, no hubby, no boyfriend and zero stress! I guess that's why I look ten years younger than most people! I don't smoke, drink or do drugs either. :w00t::w00t::w00t: Eat avocados- and moisturize your skin! Exercise. to stay thin and hot!

what ya use to moisturize your skin?:D

[Odie]

I'm of the opinion that you learn a lot about marriage from your parents' marriage, right or wrong. Now I only base that on my limited life experience. I'm sure that there are plenty of examples out there to the contrary, but...
my oldest sister, parents and grandparents on both sides all married once. On the other hand every real life friend or acquiantance that has been divorced had parents who got divorced.

[Muku]

Just once, and tomorrow's my 20th anniversary......don't ask me how she put up with my sh** for that long. I guess just keep laughing at ourselves and life in general.

Congratulations! :first: Good Job!

You are catching up to me and my wife, our 22nd will be on Friday 13th of June.:D

[DoctorP]

Congratulations! :first: Good Job!

You are catching up to me and my wife, our 22nd will be on Friday 13th of June.:D

Sheeesh...is everything a contest with you? :rolleyes::D j/k

[kombu_kid]

Yeah, but I already proved that I have more PLANET SENIORITY than him!:D:D:D.....yuk yuk!

[Old Timer]

i have been there and done that... never been cheatedon that i KNOW about.. but given my perspective on things it could very well have happened.. i have never gotten caught cheating in any past relationships or whatever..

my perspective may be a little different than most.. i cam from an environment where pu$$y was pretty much why we lived.. everday was another conquest....

living in the south jersey suburbs of philly kinda makes it hard not to fall into that lifestyle...


add in the fact that for most of my life getting what i wanted from women was reallyeasy for the most part.. i found that for me it took a minimal amount of effort... translation = i was honest from the beginning.. if all iw anted was sex.. thats all i wanted.. yes or no take it or leave it... not rude not disrespectful.. just honest.. i learned that really young..around 14 or so...
i took it and ran with it..

it got me 2 kids on the way my senior year..

not a big deal to me.. turned down some athletic scholarships cause of how my pops raised me to take care of mine.. in the end my kids made me a better person...

in short.. at this point in my life there is not much i wanted to do that i havent done.. yeah no pussy is like new pussy.. but at a certain point it seems like no matter whose pussy or how good it is.. it all ends in a nut...

so.. with that in mind.. if i was to be in a commited monogomous relationship.. it wouldnt be an issue for me to turn down opportunities for sex outside the relationship.. if i am commited then it means its about something deeper than sex.. i have dealt with getting approached and propositioned for a long time. so i am not like a dog in heat like many men are as soon as they see someone is interested..

but i will say this. i am no angel...if i was in or to be in a relationship or marraige.. if i CHOOSE to.. i know i am fully capable of stepping out with no regrets or remorse.. as long as i dont get caught.. and the likelihood of that happen would be very small indeed.. if any regrets did come around it would be because i got caught and i hurt the one i supposedly love....

yes cheating is wrong.. but i am under no illusions that it does not happen to the best and worst of us and it is done by the best and worst of us...


My nucka............Hit it and quit it!!

[Bones]

Second time for me. My 1st wife was Thai, I was 19 years old at the time. the older guys at Utapao RTNAB tried to talk me me out of it. But I was 19, out on my own, and I knew everything a lot better than those old guys. Lasted about a year after we hit the states.

Met my second wife at the Emmery Lanes, on Kadena Air Base 14 years later. I had just returned from a long TDY in Hawaii, and one of the ladies that worked with her brought us together. Our first date was a bust, they had a security exercise going on when we were supposed to meet. A few days later, we set up another date. I went to the flower shop to buy her a dozen of red roses.

She wanted to see where I lived, so we went to my room at the barracks. When we got there, she saw the flowers and said that they were beautiful. So I informed her, that the flowers were hers, that I bought them just for her.

She started crying, and I told her that if she didn't like them, I could always buy her something that she would like better. Turns out that she was crying, because she was happy. Her ex-husband had never bought her flowers, during the entire time that they were married.

Once she introduced me to the rest of her family, two kids from a previous marriage, 7 brothers and sisters, and saw how I embraced her kids, we tied the knot.

I say "kids", only in the sense that they are hers from a previous marriage, and I'm older than they are. Both of them are approaching 40, and we are very proud of them. Our son is about to get married, and she would rather come to our place vs going to his real fathers house.

In order to make it a smooth transition into our family, I told the kids that we are an American family, but the wife rules the house. We follow Japanese traditions, but if the kids want something to eat or drink, they get it themselves. I'm not serving anybody anything. Same goes for my wifes brothers and sisters. If they would like something, they know where it is. My wife's brothers, have to ask for permission if they want to drink alcoholic beverages, as does our daughter's boy friend. And yes, their spouses have some say in it as well. You touch any alcoholic beverages at my place, you lose your car keys.

If you smoke, you smoke outside. That includes me as well, it's a rule the wife imposed on me a long time ago.

We won't actually be married for 20, until December. How's it working out?

Looking fwd to the next 20.

Bones

[OKI4EVR]

There have been so many replies to the thread on infidelity that it seemed worthwhile finding out how much of the comments were based on real-life experience and hard knocks.

"Just once" is looking really good!

not to thread jack, but maybe we should add more information to make it more realistic as I am just curious of those that are just once, how many of that bunch meet the following criteria;

- Married more than "Eight years"
- Married more than "Twelve years"
- All years of the marriage have been faithful relation to your one and only

Note: Less than "Eight years" is too short and should not count

[NotSoAverageWife]

Congrats on the 20yrs!!!! How exciting!

For me....
Well, I have been married once. This year we will have our 10yr wedding anniversary. As well as renewing our vows. We met when I was 16, he was 21. Got married when I was 18, he was just about to be 23. So we have really kinda grown up together. Seen GREAT times....and some pretty bad times. However, we made the vow that we loved each other and would see each other through it all. That's what we have done.

[sazzyfrasst]

widowed and remarried...that makes 2 for me

[Maggie]

my .02 worth

except for widow and widowers, there is NO ONCE, TWICE, etc. Marriage is for life, good bad, etc. there is no # to it, it is a evolution in your life and you accept that is how your life will be until the day you die.

Not judging anyone, rather this it is my $.02 worth, and how I feel about marriage.

*(Sits back and waits for people to flame back in respond with well's, if, and or but's) :rolleyes:

Peace!:army:

Yep.

I've been married for twenty years, with a few years before the actual marriage.
I guess I'm happy enough to stay that way until one of us dies (hopfully) from old age :old:

Maggie

[remarkablere]

about 3 times...do not think you always get relationship ideas from parents though

[Jazz]

Once and that's all it ever will be whether we call it quits or not. Sometimes I wish my wife knew how to laugh at life like me and understood the concept of optimism. Unfortunately, she's really dragging me down.

[Sex Wax]

8...not counting the overnight stuff that is required in some third wolrd countries

[kombu_kid]

We won't actually be married for 20, until December. How's it working out?

Well, we definitely have our ups & downs, but my wife's a tough one. Y'know, neither one of us has ever mentioned the "D-word" (divorce).....or done any dramatic walk-outs......although I'm sure it's crossed our minds many times during bad fights. We just steer clear of each other for about a week or so when things are bad.......

I still feel like doing my own analysis on how many fights start during a woman's "monthly" thing......I think I already know.

[perfect10]

I am on marriage #2 my first husband cheated on me from the day he found out that I was pregnant with our second child, he told me to get an abortion that he liked his lifestyle and another kid would screw things up. Then there was the 4 years of mental and emotional abuse, oh the after that he started beating me for 3 years, until I couldn't stand up or passed out from the pain....... 8 years of hell on earth but no one knew about it because I thought I was being the good wife and protecting him..... I am lucky to still be alive to find some one else to send the rest of my life with. I have been speaking out against domestic violence for 7 years and incrourage people men and women that were in my situation to go out and find love it is hard to trust after all of the abuse that goes on.


So I guess according to you I do not deserve a second chance to find love, I have been with my husband for 5 years and am very happy in a relationship for the first time ever. I have a life that I wasn't allowed to have with my first husband.

[Ren Cortan]

I'm on marriage #2. I am a strong believer in the institution. However, Yale is not for everbody, sometimes you need to go to community college until you can stand the long haul.

:49:

[okisteve]

about 3 times...do not think you always get relationship ideas from parents though

Gotta applaud someone who isn't really certain!:old::old:

[badkitty]

Well this is my second time around but legally my first marriage didn't count. But anywhoo... After 5 years of drama, I gave up and bounced. Our relationship is better now that we aren't together, I guess we were meant to be friends. Would I get married again, right now at this moment i would have to say no. But I am happy and my kids are too, so I guess that's all that matters...

[Rick James Jr.]

Only once and I am still married to the love of my life. I am happy we are still together. I have done things I am ashamed of and she has stuck with me and I do everything i can to make it right. We have two kids, a great life together and are best friends.

[thomasz]

thanks, i will answer you soon.

[Old Timer]

Congratulations! :first: Good Job!

You are catching up to me and my wife, our 22nd will be on Friday 13th of June.:D
:smile4::smile4::smile4:

Happy Aniversary!

[L Boogie]

Still in my first marriage. Been married almost 3 years.

[ttavolazzi]

One time..........and I hope it stays that way! We've only been married for 13 months though...heh

[NotSoAverageWife]

Oh man....in a few weeks we will have our 10yr anniversary. We plan to renew our wedding vows. I am getting a little nervous...

[dk]

Oh man....in a few weeks we will have our 10yr anniversary. We plan to renew our wedding vows. I am getting a little nervous...
Awesome! Congratulations!!! :thumbup:

[NotSoAverageWife]

Awesome! Congratulations!!! :thumbup:

Thanks a lot dk. Even being nervous, it really does mean a lot to me. We plan to do it at Cape ManzaMo....as I wanted it to reflect being here in Okinawa. I see being here as a chance of a lifetime, to see and experience a place and people/culture that we would never have been able to otherwise. I didn't want just "a beach wedding". Cause hell, you can have that back in the states too.

[dk]

Thanks a lot dk. Even being nervous, it really does mean a lot to me. We plan to do it at Cape ManzaMo....as I wanted it to reflect being here in Okinawa. I see being here as a chance of a lifetime, to see and experience a place and people/culture that we would never have been able to otherwise. I didn't want just "a beach wedding". Cause hell, you can have that back in the states too.
What you really need is, like, me, muku, doug, tld, c6, sex wax, p_chan (he'll be 18 next month), etc, all of us oiled up and decked out in chip'n'dales costumes, at the beach, as your best men. That'd be pretty cool, IMO. Then, it wouldn't JUST be a beach wedding. It'd be something you'd NEVER forget.

[NotSoAverageWife]

What you really need is, like, me, muku, doug, tld, c6, sex wax, p_chan (he'll be 18 next month), etc, all of us oiled up and decked out in chip'n'dales costumes, at the beach, as your best men. That'd be pretty cool, IMO. Then, it wouldn't JUST be a beach wedding. It'd be something you'd NEVER forget.

LMAO! You are something else!:thumbup1:

Heck I would tell all of JU they are welcome to come, but I haven't met anyone here yet. lol
(edit...cause I don't think it would be of high interest)

I wanted to have a distance pic done with Jason and I standing on the part where the cliff is....but they have the walkway and it roped off so I don't think they would like us over there....even more so cause he will be in uniform. I don't know if there is a way to get permission for that either. Oh well....I will take what I can get.

[Blues]

none and maybe