Pregnancy (you've been warned)

[socalheart]

This is mostly to b!tch about being pregnant or be annoyingly giddy about it. :p

I'm in my fifth month and still have morning sickness ALL DAY! Anyone else? Mom says it will either go away by the third trimester or stay with me the whole nine yards. WTF-over?! :eek:

The most nifty thing about pregnant women for most men, the enlarged breasts, is often painfully inconvenient for me. I wake myself up when I turn over in the middle of the night from the sheer weight of the things. Yeah, y'all can stop laughing now...

EVERYONE who has gone through childbirth says that it hurts. Yes, I'm focusing on the ouch factor. I've never done this before.

Did I mention the psycho-chick moments? I near about took a sledge hammer to our post office box when it wouldn't open for me. Luckily, I don't happen to carry one with me, or I'd be in the brig. :rolleyes:

Then there's the whole being hungry ALL THE TIME, but not knowing what to eat yet. I can only typically keep down white bread and pastries, fruit and ginger ale. That's a helluva diet when you're hungry.

So, is there anyone else out there going through or have gone through this themselves or with their wife? I need to commiserate or be amused by the whole nine month parasite infestation thing. :D Thanks.

[Tempestuous]

I was fortunate to not suffer morning sickness- had 2 wks w/1 pregnancy had a little queasiness....heartburn on the other hand :)

Some people report ginger helps....you can try utilizing the essential oil and place 1 drop under tongue & hold as long as possible.....(lemon can sometimes work as substitute)

You may also need to experiment and see if eating at different times helps- like right before bed eating helps diminish the feeling upon rising. Eating frequent small amounts. Drink LOADS of water. Take prenatel vits w/food, some do better w/ taking it at bedtime w/food.
Some have found eating a low amt of saturated fat foods help

If its due to the vestibular system- some say those motion sickness/magnetic bands have helped.

As for morning sickness in general- it is usually done about 14 wks or like your Mom mentioned- stuck with it the whole duration. Unfortunately, you just have to try this, try that, etc & see if anything helps

Don't stress over the pain- like previously mentioned- it is well worth it and forgotten/overshadowed quickly. You may just surprise yourself when the time comes.

It is wearing on you- (takes approx 2yrs for your body to completely heal/line up/ get back to "normal") try as best as you can to enjoy the journey.
It passes quickly, and before you know it your "baby" is getting ready to turn (insert age) and you actually miss the day of feeling them bump around in there.

[Tempestuous]

Do you know what you are having? I have heard a statistic that a high percentage of severe morning sickness sufferers end up having girls.....Not sure on the accuracy but curious.

[zeldan]

I'm now eight months pregnant, and, oh, the morning sickness thing. Mine FINALLY went away at six months (and is.. coming back...). My OB yelled at me for not gaining any weight, and, honestly, I'd like to know how the hell I'm supposed to gain anything when I was throwing up WATER, not to mention everything else that went in my mouth. UGH! I had HG, but did they diagnose me with that? No, they let me suffer. Nice.

More on the weight thing. Okay, so I was 136 at conception. About three weeks later, I started getting really sleepy all the time, and was never hungry. When I found out I was pregnant, I weighed 125. The next time I got weighed (I PCSd during my pregnancy, and therefore couldn't see an OB until:) at 4 months, I was 122. You know what my OB said? She accused me of being anorexic. I got yelled at all the way until I was seven months pregnant because I wasn't showing, like it was my fault. I just recently gained 9 pounds (in one month), so I'm at 131 now. Apparently, that isn't enough either. A friend of mine back in the states has gained 38 pounds in her pregnancy so far, and she's gotten yelled at for gaining too much by her OB. What do they want from us??? We either gain too much, or not enough. We're either moving around too much, or not enough.

I'm so scared for my baby. My OB has me thinking that she's not getting enough food and that she's going to be too small, or that she's going to die or something. I try to eat as much as I can, but I'm just never hungry! Plus, there's no Arby's here...

I could go on and on about my pregnancy gripes, but, I'll cut it short for now.

[Tempestuous]

Honestly, the baby will take what it needs. If you can't eat, it will take it from the stores in your body. Your body will be the thing that suffers not the baby. (I have known people that have lost their hair and teeth trying not to eat and gain weight while pregnant.)

If this wasn't the case then how could 3rd world countries continue to have babies with the limited amts of food & care available?

It was mentioned previously some people don't gain noticible amts of weight. My Mom with my brother and I never even looked pregnant. I was 8lbs and he was 8.9 or something so I would say do what you can, be as healthy as you can, and don't let them stress you!! Like we need them adding worries and stress to our hormonal issues. :D

[coldnoodles]

I have had 4 kids. The first child, I was 5'9" and weighed 99 pounds, I couldn't gain weight By 30 weeks I weighed 112 pounds. I had a complicated pregnancy - I can't feel contractions. I had no drugs during delivery, once they broke the water I had her in about 3hrs, they gave me meds to feel contractions. She weighed 8.14 @ 21.3/4 long. No one knew I was pregnant!! Same with the 2nd child, but that one I was more high risk @ 8mo pregnant I had a blood clot in both lungs, I would have been dead if I didn't skip medical term exams and go to ER!

3rd child @ 5mo pregnant went home to visit for Christmas ended up being on complete bed rest until delivery dialated with complete previa, @ 36 wks had C-section. Born with severe jaundice 7.9 pounds but dropped down to 5.1 pounds leaving hospital w/ severe jaundice.

4th child was born here in Okinawa man that was a nightmare! Here they were mad cuz I gained too much weight at once, when I never really eat anything. I don't eat American foods. I know I was dilated, but they were saying I wasn't. born 41wks 7.14

[zeldan]

I can't feel my contractions either!! They've had me hooked up to monitor them, and they would be asking me if I was in pain, or if I even felt it, and .. nope, nothing. I feel invincible, lol! Not really, I know childbirth is going to be very painful for me -- I have hyper reflexia <3

[roxy_skyy]

I don't EVER want kids. LMAO! I feel sorry for you guys but not in a bad way, just...I know that I'm not ready to do all that...

[socalheart]

The doc thinks the parasite is a girl. So, we're going with that for now.

I weighed more before being pregnant than I do now. Just when I think I've gained weight, I lose weight. I just have to gain a little more weight for my next checkup. Supposedly, pregnant folks are supposed to gain a pound a week from this point on.

As an aside, 5'9" and 99 lbs?! Holy chopsticks! That's really skinny... like Karen Carpenter skinny. I'd have been worried for you too.

Update: Now it's all about the peeing with sleeping and eating fit in where possible. :p I still have no cravings or appetite. I get hungry, sure, but still nauseous. I have yet to feel the parasite move, but I do feel the innards stretching to accommodate her.

Thanks for sharing folks, please continue to do so. It's appreciated. :)

[zeldan]

The doc thinks the parasite is a girl. So, we're going with that for now.

I weighed more before being pregnant than I do now. Just when I think I've gained weight, I lose weight. I just have to gain a little more weight for my next checkup. Supposedly, pregnant folks are supposed to gain a pound a week from this point on.

As an aside, 5'9" and 99 lbs?! Holy chopsticks! That's really skinny... like Karen Carpenter skinny. I'd have been worried for you too.

Update: Now it's all about the peeing with sleeping and eating fit in where possible. :p I still have no cravings or appetite. I get hungry, sure, but still nauseous. I have yet to feel the parasite move, but I do feel the innards stretching to accommodate her.

Thanks for sharing folks, please continue to do so. It's appreciated. :)Ooh, wow, you sound just like me. I'm finally starting to gain weight (even though I'm stuck again now), so you'll be fine. Don't let the docs scare you!

[socalheart]

What happened to Zeldan? If you're out there, z, hope everything is good with you and your baby dealybob. :D

I wanted to rant a bit anyhow... I'm always hungry, but not for anything in particular. I still have to pee often, which rarely amounts to much. I wish the parasite would at least tell me what she wants me to eat. I still throw up half of what I eat on account of her. She really doesn't like Taco Bell tacos. She seems to be okay with Indian food though... and donuts. She's all about the donuts this week. We went baby stuff shopping at the exchange the other day. Yeah, I don't want to have to do that again any time soon. :rolleyes:

I guess I can throw in a rave too... My husband is being very awesome about the whole thing. He tries to anticipate my food issues, but to little avail. I also gained enough weight to be in the normal range now. He put the crib together this weekend. He's all about the decorating the nursery thing. So, yay, husband! :thumbup:

[DoctorP]

Haven't seen Zeldan around...hope all is well!

[Mad Hatter]

I use to dislike the fact that my wife was pregnant... but now that my little one is about two... it's the greatest thing that ever happen to me.

I want to share something personal with you guys (and gals)...

The very first time that I met my wife, we had sex. Not that she was easy, we just knew in our hearts that we had found the one. that night our daughter was made. "One shot one kill" as the Marines would say. The thing is that I might have left my wife if it was for our daughter. You see if I leave, it would be years before I would get to see her again. My wife and I don't really fight that much, but some times the stress is to much. I hate ot put it like this, but our daughter is the glue that holds our relationship together. We might have our bad times, but daughter helps to show us that we also have a lot of good times too!

[atb35]

That is cool that you and your wife stayed together, but....

Staying because of a kid is not a good reason to continue a relationship. I used to think the same thing and stayed for about eight years....after we split up finally I realized we should have LONG ago. The other thing is....if she was your ONE and vice versa, why would you say your daughter is the thing that keeps you from leaving?

[Muku]

I use to dislike the fact that my wife was pregnant... but now that my little one is about two... it's the greatest thing that ever happen to me.

I want to share something personal with you guys (and gals)...

The very first time that I met my wife, we had sex. Not that she was easy, we just knew in our hearts that we had found the one. that night our daughter was made. "One shot one kill" as the Marines would say. The thing is that I might have left my wife if it was for our daughter. You see if I leave, it would be years before I would get to see her again. My wife and I don't really fight that much, but some times the stress is to much. I hate ot put it like this, but our daughter is the glue that holds our relationship together. We might have our bad times, but daughter helps to show us that we also have a lot of good times too!
You arent alone either in thinking or feeling this way. I know of quite a few couples that have stuck it out because of the children. Let me rephrase that, thanks to the children.

If you always remember that you made the child out of love and caring about one another, it helps when those rough times come. Every marriage has them.

Hell there is always going to be stress as well, if you didnt have any you would be a wet noodle. Stress is necessary in life to motivate and make us humans function better. It's all in how you handle it, not all stress or pressure is bad, use it, dont let it use you.

[socalheart]

Heh. Just wait until the kids are teenagers. Even the most perfect angel child can become the devil's spawn as a teenager. They say the terrible two's but it's only to prepare you for the tumultuous teens. ;) My husband says that he's locking up our daughter until she's thirty. I think that's what all dads say until mom and teen daughter have their first arguement about who used the hairdryer last. :D Some say that you forget the pains of pregnancy when you meet the baby, but the memories probably come back with the teen years. Heh.

[Tempestuous]

Haven't seen Zeldan around...hope all is well!

She had the bambino earlier this month.....(check her myspace) That is where I have been keeping up with her.