Do annoying people ever realize how annoying they've become?

[TheLastDon]

Do annoying people ever realize how annoying they've become? :D

How do you tell an annoying person to stop being such an ass in a nice way?

Do you think they will ever get the hint? How many people does take to get an annoying person to stop being so annoying.

Did I use the word annoying enough?

Am I annoying?

[Fonze]

I think it all depends on the annoying person. If you think your being nice, the annoying person might not think you are.

[TheLastDon]

Nice sig Fonze! I thing this tread is going to die real quick. Just something that popped in my head.

[okisteve]

Do annoying people ever realize how annoying they've become? :D

How do you tell an annoying person to stop being such an ass in a nice way?

Do you think they will ever get the hint? How many people does take to get an annoying person to stop being so annoying.

Did I use the word annoying enough?

Am I annoying?

Best way is doing it directly, like a real guy, using "I" statements, not just making coy hints (can I say GAY on this forum?).

You use the word 'annoying" so much that I can't even tell what you mean by it. Why don't you just not have anything to do with that annoying person?

[Bones]

Maybe he's talking about you.:D

Or..........................

NBTP

[okisteve]

Maybe he's talking about you.:D

Or..........................

NBTP

Maybe, but I guess it will just remain his little secret.

[TheLastDon]

Well somebody on this forum is kind of an amalgam of people I have known in my life.

It's kind of hard for me to put in words. There are persons when you first meet them you think they're ok and maybe you become alright friends but later on they just annoy you. Then you don't know what to do after that. Do you still try to be friends with them or just blow them off.

Maybe i am not making sense anymore, I have had a little awamori tonight.:D:thumbup:

[okisteve]

TLD, actually I do know what you mean, and I have blown off quite a few the same way. But if you want to learn something from the experience, I found that at least half the answers are inside yourself.

[kombu_kid]

Interesting!........many times I think annoying people, by their nature, don't realize they're annoying. They're just clueless. It's just one of life's little automatic entertainment features.......kinda like those people who talk and talk and talk and talk, thinking they're the life of the party.........except they're developing that white "froth" on the corners of their mouth. And all the people smiling and laughing around them are laughing for a different reason.:D

[DoctorP]

I worked for a guy once who thought he was the shit. Talked a big game, drove what he thought was a flashy car, thought he had a hot wife...all the time people were mocking him behind his back. He would try to throw parties...suggesting that people from work had to be there, just to make himself feel important, but all it did was make him look like an ass!

[TheLastDon]

Most times I try not to be a butthole.

In my job I do I have to work with people for 6 months at a time. Most of the time you get ok people but this recent guy just drives me crazy.:cursing: He is trying to be my friend but I am already annoyed with the guy. I already showed my annoyance and he actually picked up on it and asked me "Did I do something to piss you off" Well being the nice guy that I am I kind of brushed it off and didn't attack his personality directly BUT heck I don't know what to do. I'm such a wuss. :-|

[Muku]

Most times I try not to be a butthole.

In my job I do I have to work with people for 6 months at a time. Most of the time you get ok people but this recent guy just drives me crazy.:cursing: He is trying to be my friend but I am already annoyed with the guy. I already showed my annoyance and he actually picked up on it and asked me "Did I do something to piss you off" Well being the nice guy that I am I kind of brushed it off and didn't attack his personality directly BUT heck I don't know what to do. I'm such a wuss. :-|
No actually I dont think you are a wuss, I just think that it is the better part of a persons nature to try to be nice to people.

Unless of course they go out of their way to be a prick towards you, if that is the case then screw being nice tell them to "Kiss your butt"!:eek: :D


Of course there are always those in peoples lives that just annoy the living shit out of a person and there is nothing that you can do to change the situation......damn sounds kind of like life here on JU.:cool:

[TheLastDon]

I think some people missed the point of my OP.

[DoctorP]

I think some people missed the point of my OP.

I think everyone read between the lines...but opted not to go that route.

[kombu_kid]

If I was in a situation like that, which, I think I have been before......I just shift into "talking shop" exclusively, no small talk. Any questioning about what I did over the weekend or on vacation gets met with "ahh, same ol'". Or any joking around or trying to stimulate some conversation gets met with a stone face and a "huh?".

This sounds like I'm being a total jerk, but this is how I treat people at my work who rat others out, or blow the whistle on guys who may have taken an extended lunch, whatever.........and some of these clowns rat others out for no reason, they're not even in the same work unit as they are. Just scumbags........then they wanna get all buddy-buddy with the group again. I don't know about where ya'll work, but at my workplace, it's like a bunch of cacklin' hens.

[TheLastDon]

I think everyone read between the lines...but opted not to go that route.

I know I was kidding but i am serious about the situation I am in now. It's just sooo aggravating. :cursing:

[Muku]

I think some people missed the point of my OP.
I think the key word here is "self moderation" maybe? :confused::p


Oh and what Doc P wrote too.:p

[okisteve]

I worked for a guy once who thought he was the shit. Talked a big game, drove what he thought was a flashy car, thought he had a hot wife...all the time people were mocking him behind his back. He would try to throw parties...suggesting that people from work had to be there, just to make himself feel important, but all it did was make him look like an ass!

He sounds like he would make a 'soft target'....:thumbdown:

[Boost]

If I was in a situation like that, which, I think I have been before......I just shift into "talking shop" exclusively, no small talk. Any questioning about what I did over the weekend or on vacation gets met with "ahh, same ol'". Or any joking around or trying to stimulate some conversation gets met with a stone face and a "huh?".


I am very much the same way when it comes to those I don't particularly care for. There is this one guy in particular I know that I just cannot stand to talk to if I can help it. Whenever he comes up to talk to me, I try to be nice but usually only respond with head nods and "Uh huh's". Try my best not to contribute anything to the conversation or ask any questions. Usually keeps the conversation minimal and short...though he has been known to just keep going on an on. At that point, you just hope someone will come save you by needing your help or attention.

[iAmtheMovie]

Most annoying people don't know, though occasionally you'll get the rare, slightly worse person who isn't oblivious to how difficult it is to talk to them but don't make the effort to change.

I hate when I have a conversation and I realize a few hours later that I was being a complete jerk to someone and was somehow expecting them to like me more for it.

[Bones]

One of the things that I used to hate, is when new people arrive on the job they always tell you how great they were at their last base. They usually didn't understand the concept that the gaining supervisor has access to their P.I.F. (Personal Information File).

Also, it's important for a supervisor to sit the new guys/gals down for an interview, explain the rules of the local working environment, and set some ground rules. Let them know that you will do everything that you can to help them adapt, and that you will do your best to help them with any problems that arise as long as they're valid problems, not user stupidity generated problems such as DUI.

Be honest with your people, you're their supervisor, not their buddy. If it appears that things are getting out of hand, " Let's go to my office, for a chat."

Never blow up at the person who annoys you in front of his/her peers.

I found it helpful to have an impartial person in the office for the interview. Like my supervisor, or my counter-part from another shift. Before conducting the counseling session, let them know why the other person is there. Usually it's good to have a witness, especially if you plan on getting rid of the person working for you. But they might also serve as a witness for the person whom you elected to terminate, if you've lost your temper.

Usually, most problems can be solved by a counseling. If the cure requires you to terminate an individual, gather your employees after the termination, and explain your reasons to them honestly. This would also be good time to remind the rest of your employees about your policies, and perhaps a "B_tch Session". Give them a chance to voice any of the problems that they might have with you. That session doesn't have to happen right away, you might give them time to think about it for a while, but it needs to happen.

You may not like what you hear, but that comes with the territory.

Also when receiving praise from upper management, when asked : "What makes you so special?".

Take the time to introduce that person to the people who work for you.

Ultimately, it's those people who make you look good.

NBTP

[Muku]

Also when receiving praise from upper management, when asked : "What makes you so special?".

Take the time to introduce that person to the people who work for you.

Ultimately, it's those people who make you look good.


Now isnt that the God's honest truth!:thumbup:

[DocTurtle]

No...annoying people normally don't know they are annoying. Just like the crazy don't know they are crazy. IMO, people that are annoying usually lacked friendship at a younger age, hence their need to, normally from I can tell, be loud, obnoxious, or do whatever else it is that they can to get a little attention. That's just the Dr.Phil in me though :p

[P_chan]

No...annoying people normally don't know they are annoying. Just like the crazy don't know they are crazy. IMO, people that are annoying usually lacked friendship at a younger age, hence their need to, normally from I can tell, be loud, obnoxious, or do whatever else it is that they can to get a little attention. That's just the Dr.Phil in me though :p


Annoying people like to act like they know everything:D..........just kidding

[Muku]

Annoying people like to act like they know everything:D..........
But I do know everything....:eek: Oppss wrong thread!:o

[Tempestuous]

But I do know everything....

Have you been drinking water again Muku??!?!? :)

[Muku]

Have you been drinking water again Muku??!?!? :)

Only the carbonated type.......that is amber in color!:thumbup:

[P_chan]

Only the carbonated type.......that is amber in color!:thumbup:

They bottle carbonated urine?

[Onlooker]

Do annoying people ever realize how annoying they've become? :D

How do you tell an annoying person to stop being such an ass in a nice way?

Do you think they will ever get the hint? How many people does take to get an annoying person to stop being so annoying.

Did I use the word annoying enough?

Am I annoying?



Well,I have another question.....Do ugly people know that they are ugly?!?

[Bones]

As posted by Onlooker:

Well,I have another question.....Do ugly people know that they are ugly?!?

Lucky for us ugly people, even over here, someone loves us.:D

NBTP

[Tony Stacks]

Do annoying people ever realize how annoying they've become? No

How do you tell an annoying person to stop being such an ass in a nice way?
There is no nice way just the real and honest way.

Do you think they will ever get the hint? No

Did I use the word annoying enough? No

Am I annoying? No

[okisteve]

What about people who might not necessarily be obnoxious, but who drive cars or bikes that are excessively noisy. I find myself cussing them out all too often (usually locals, not Americans but we have had a poster here brag about how loud his car is and how he doesn't give a s***). What do you do, if anything?

[Muku]

Well,I have another question.....Do ugly people know that they are ugly?!?


Deja Vu......:eek: What's up about people asking this question the past two days?:rolleyes: :p. Are people worried that they are ugly or something?:eek:

[kombu_kid]

What about people who might not necessarily be obnoxious, but who drive cars or bikes that are excessively noisy. I find myself cussing them out all too often (usually locals, not Americans but we have had a poster here brag about how loud his car is and how he doesn't give a s***). What do you do, if anything?

(Don't get mad.....get even.) At least you guys don't have as many "open header" Harleys over there as here stateside. There's a guy at my work who has "fishtail" pipes on his Harley, without baffles. When he takes off out of work......I swear it can damn near break eardrums when he gets on it. The dude's over 50 and thinks he's cool as f**k. Cities are finally starting to crack down on the cycle riders who run these pipes.

[Tanimaga]

Plenty of "outlaw" bikers here on their BX special 883 that run open exhausts as well. No doubt not as many as where you are, but enough to be annoying (on several levels).

[okisteve]

OMG I'M SORRY OKISTEVE
I hit edit instead of quote...
gomen gomen.

Doug.

I'm going to go stick my head in a corner.:(

[Boost]

This reminds me of a sticker I once saw relating to super load exhausts on bikes, it said, "Loud pipes saves lives." With of course the idea being that if you have trouble seeing bikes, at least you would hear them and be more aware that they are around.

For myself...I don't mind exhausts that are naturally loud by nature (i.e. not intentionally reeving at 9000 RPMs while only going 25 KMH). I currently have an '04 Yamaha YZF-R1 with a full race pipe that is naturally louder then the stock pipe. While my goal is not to wake up the neighbors every time I take off or come home, I do like the deep throaty sound it puts off as well as the higher performance of a race pipe vs. a stock pipe.

[okisteve]

Please don't let me guess how loud yours can sound, Boost.

I really appreciate a well-tuned 4-cylinder smooth throaty exhaust, car or bike. I even said it to my wife as one passed us last week (and she looked at me like I had just farted), but most are just too loud at full throttle. I'm not totally innocent myself, but I started paying attention to the neighbors feelings a long time ago.

[Tempestuous]

His isn't loud or obnoxious. When he starts it IN the garage under the kids bedroom they don't even hear it in the a.m.

Now being accustomed to it, I can hear it as he a door or so down & know to open the garage door, but I also can identify military planes by their engine sounds. So I am kinda weird & have acute hearing.

I also can identify the kids walking upstairs by their footsteps. (yeah, I am just a weirdo) :)

[Boost]

Yeah, if it's early am or late pm, I try to keep it under 3K rpms when I am riding through the neighborhood...well I try to do that anytime really.

But come time to get on the interstate...it's balls to the wall!!! :D

[Tempestuous]

Shoot!!! The neighbor has professional racing boats (the kind that make the speed records)
And he lites those puppies up at 1130PM with no concern to anyone else, revving and carrying on.....I think that covers the low rumble of the bike!!!

[okisteve]

Sugar. Gas tank.

[P_chan]

bolonge(sp) works wonders on an inconsiderate neighbor's vehicles pain job:D

[Hollarey]

ahh...I just read this thread. My oldest son is annoying and I tell him often he is..BUT..he still acts that way. Nothing you say is gonna stop it. Maybe some meds might, but that is only temporary.
Some peoples annoyances are purposeful. They know they get under your skin and just want to keep pushing your buttons.

[Muku]

Back to the OP here, after all the threads started today.........I truly wonder :rolleyes:

Things must be pretty active on the "other" forum here today.:-|

[TheLastDon]

What the heck happened today? I didn't have time too read through all that garbage going on.

[dk]

What the heck happened today? I didn't have time too read through all that garbage going on.
Good luck catching up. It's better to just skim.

[TheLastDon]

Time to get new mods already dk?:rolleyes: Just joking, well half joking.:D

[Muku]

Good luck catching up. It's better to just skim.
Actually in all honesty........is it really worth it? :rolleyes:

[TheNoNamedOne]

No. So be sure to not try and catch up on what has been replied to you on these types of threads since you've been off, Muku. Unless you answer "yes" to your own question... Well???

[ja_Patriot]

Time to get new mods already dk?:rolleyes: Just joking, well half joking.:D

Here. I'll provide the other half.

[dk]

Actually in all honesty........is it really worth it? :rolleyes:
No, not really. My opinion.

[Muku]

No, not really. My opinion.
I agree:thumbup: