Help concerning wifes affair

[Okinawaevo]

Japanupdate,

Thank you for the support and the kind responses. I received the requested info.

Mods, apologies for any inconvenience this may have caused and I am aware that I was not supposed to post personal info. I just felt that I had no choice. Please delete this thread as this will be handled offline from here on out.

Best regards

[Muku]

Whether what you wrote here is true or not is not the point I am going to try to make here......

Posting private information about people on this forum is against the rules. FYI I reported your post and asked that a mod or the admin here delete it as soon as possible. If you read this please do it yourself. Thanks.

Next if what you wrote is true, I wish you luck and hope that there is some reasonable explaination for everyones actions that you refer to in your post here.

If not maybe it's time to think about a divorce.

[DougP]

I must say though if it happened to me I'd do the same. If you're reading okinawaevo I hope you get your man.

[Okinawaevo]

Uchinamuku,

Thats fine I understand the rules. I need help notifying his wife. I feel that she needs to know and at least get tested, as its probably not the first time something like this has happed. Since both wont come clean, this is my only choice.

Regards

[Muku]

Uchinamuku,

Thats fine I understand the rules. I need help notifying his wife. I feel that she needs to know and at least get tested, as its probably not the first time something like this has happed. Since both wont come clean, this is my only choice.

Regards

Then tell people to pm you for information. I feel for you big time.

What do you expect someone here to do, call these people up and say hey I read on an internet board that your wife or your husband has been fooling around with someone elses wife or husband?

Maybe you arent thinking this through totally and I can not say as I blame you. Yet if I called you and said that what would your response be?

How do you know so much about this guy? How do you know that he is even married? Plus how can you be so sure that he took your wife to a love hotel?

Plus lastly and dude this one is the hardest to ask.....sorry ......how do you know that he knew that the woman, your wife, that he took to the hotel was married? Is it possible she didnt say anything either?

[OCanadaOurHomeAndNativeLand]

Affairs are definitely a sign something is very wrong in a marriage. It's really up to the couple to decide if it ruins the marriage, or if they will work through it. How the parents respond dictates how the kids are affected. Sounds like a tough deal all around. I hope it works out for the best of everyone, regardless.

[socalheart]

You could leave the post, but omit the whole cell phone number and email address of the other person.

Good luck finding your way through this.

[Muku]

You could leave the post, but omit the whole cell phone number and email address of the other person.

Good luck finding your way through this.
I agree, I also had hoped he would do it himself without getting the admin involved....but alas:(

[DougP]

I'd rather he delete the phone number and email address from the OP but tell his story, what he knows etc.. Wonder if it involves service member(s).
And if it does involve service members than it also needs to be brought up to the chain of command of those involved.

[ryukyuboi]

*shaking head* Private matters need to be handled privately by the individuals involved. Period.

[DougP]

*shaking head* Private matters need to be handled privately by the individuals involved. Period.

Your opinion and you're entitled to it.

Some feel as though the forums/internet are a good way to vent grief. His first post seemed like more of an outburtst brought on by obvious frustration.
I don't blame him one bit for it. Its not the first time personal matters, opinions actions have been brought to light on this forum. Or any other for that matter.:D

[Muku]

Your opinion and you're entitled to it.

Some feel as though the forums/internet are a good way to vent grief. His first post seemed like more of an outburtst brought on by obvious frustration.
I don't blame him one bit for it. Its not the first time personal matters, opinions actions have been brought to light on this forum. Or any other for that matter.:D

I agree with you here.

However it would be more appropriate to do so in a manner that does not identify, directly, anyone in this alledged act of adultery. Remember not to say that the OP is a liar or anything but there are ALWAYS two sides to every story.

[Okinawaevo]

Thank you for your very kind replys. For the record, I am not asking any one to contact this person. Please don`t! This is between him and I. Please do PM me the information or send me an email if you know anything.

I do have all the information and correspondence between them, I also have him admitting to me about the affair. The only thing I don`t know is who he really is.

I honestly believe that his wife needs to know. Its her choice what she does with the information. I just think it would be wrong if I didn`t say anything and something happened to her or her children. As for me, I am ready to move on and focus on making this transition as gentle for my children as possible.

Again, thanks for the kind advice.

[Muku]

Thank you for your very kind replys. For the record, I am not asking any one to contact this person. Please don`t! This is between him and I. Please do PM me the information or send me an email if you know anything.

I do have all the information and correspondence between them, I also have him admitting to me about the affair. The only thing I don`t know is who he really is.

I honestly believe that his wife needs to know. Its her choice what she does with the information. I just think it would be wrong if I didn`t say anything and something happened to her or her children. As for me, I am ready to move on and focus on making this transition as gentle for my children as possible.

Again, thanks for the kind advice.

Ok thanks for sharing....is the guy in the Military or not? Like Doug wrote if he is the commands should be getting involved here and you need to take the high road. For you to do this just to identify to the wife in question what had happened ends up possibly ruining two families and sounds like revenge.

Not to say that it isnt justified, but do you really think the other guys wife is that unaware that her husband may be fooling around?

What goes around comes around and by your desire for revenge on this guy you will be the one possibly responsible for ruining another family. Are you sure you want to do that? Dont you think that you end up being in the same boat as your wife and him?

Stop and think about it some more.

I am truly sorry and for you and your children. For yours and their sake I hope that you can manage your way through this. I also hope you have considered counselling for you and your kids.

[dk]

Edited the OP. Do not post anyone's personal information without their written consent.

[ryukyuboi]

I wonder if the individuals involved could have met online at first? It might be an avenue to consider. Sometimes pictures are used for profiles.

[Muku]

I wonder if the individuals involved could have met online at first? It might be an avenue to consider. Sometimes pictures are used for profiles.

Yeah well the OP has now been edited from;

am looking for information concerning a gentleman that decided to ruin my marriage and hurt my three kids. I guess he decided that it was OK to take my wife Azusa to a love motel. If you have any information please contact me at Okinawaevo@yahoo.com. If you are his wife, I apologize for any hurt my wife may have caused.

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Japanupdate,

Thank you for the support and the kind responses. I received the requested info.

Mods, apologies for any inconvenience this may have caused and I am aware that I was not supposed to post personal info. I just felt that I had no choice. Please delete this thread as this will be handled offline from here on out.

Best regards
So I suppose he got what he was looking for here.

I wish the guy and his kids the best.

[atb35]

Such a common occurance with military....thing about it though is...He didnt ruin the marriage, the wife did. He might have not even known she was married, she is the one that made the choice to betray the vows...cant blame a guy for wanting to hit it....(I know ppl will disagree with that last point, but hell, guys arent going to turn down a woman willing to go)

[DougP]

Well if the guy did know that put him on the "deserves an asswhoopin " list. Even though a guy has to grab what he can get sometimes doesn't give him immunity. Taking a risk is just that.
Also there's a big difference between some guy who doesn't know and "just" hit that and a guy who has been writing emails(plural).

Now there is that slight chance that he may not know. I've seen those talk shows where the guy goes on and looks shocked when he finds out his wife is really a man. :rolleyes:

[dk]

Closing the topic. Looks like the author found what he was looking for. Glad we could be of use. I wish you the best.